Spare the rod and spoil the child went the old expression but now to many “smacking is out”.
Although it can be tempting to get cross with a misbehaving child and shout at them when they step out of line, Australian parenting coach, CSILLA LOVE is now telling parents that even when children misbehave, cause chaos, terrorise or even bully their peers, they must never tell them they’re being “naughty”.
She states that from a child’s perspective, being called ‘naughty’ often makes them think that their parents only see them as troublemakers.
“This has a huge impact on their self-esteem, their friendships and their relationship with you,” she explained.
She then added that if a child hears something about themselves often enough that they will start to believe it and begin acting accordingly, and that it can take years of self-reflection and ‘inner child therapy’ to undo the damage that such labels can cause.
After all, parents are the ultimate authority figure to small children, so if one or both of them consistently refers to the child as ‘naughty’ or a troublemaker, who are they to question such logic?
So now you’ve been told so go over and get on the “naughty step”.
For her historical feature this week, Margaret Mills took us back to a summer day in 1906 when an Ilford based company had arranged their annual outing to take their staff to the seaside – Margate. Staff duly gathered on the platform at 6am at Ilford station to enjoy their day.
But things started to go wrong from the start with the train arriving late and this only got worse with further late running connections, and by the time they eventually got back to London, train services had closed for the day resulting in them having to walk back to Ilford!
Listen to the sorry tale here in full: –
See you again next week,